Prison Place

I raised my daughter all alone her father was in prison before she was even born and could not stay out

to raise her what so ever, she's now 12 and he's still in and out!!! It's not easy but we can do it !!! ;0)

Hi Jacobsgirl,

Your post is my nightmare! My boyfriend was taken away 3 weeks after our daughter was born! He was supposed to be getting out in December but got into a little trouble in prison.....go figure, now they say he can get out in March.

I so want him to find a job, and be a good father. He has only seen Maggie, his daughter 3 times. She is so big now, and thinks a photo is her dad :(

I pray he does what he says he will do.

Thanks for your post, and God bless you:) 

My kids' dad has been in and out of prison for most of his adult life. You are just going to have to hope that you are strong enough to raise the kids on your own, because sadly, you can't count on them to be there.  Just instill values in your children that will prevent them from making the same mistakes!  I still love my kids' dad, and I write him and let him talk to the boys, but I sure don't count on him ever changing......less disappointment that way, for myself and the boys. No sense getting their hopes up time after time. People that get locked up seem to think it only affects them, and they are so far from right it's ridiculous.  Good luck, stay strong, and love your kids.  If this sounds harsh, I apologize, but sometimes it's cold hard fact.

I'm so glad to find people going through similar situations as me. My fiance was locked up two weeks before our daughter was born and she was extremely sick. She spent over four months in the hospital involving two surgeries, treatment for three undiagnosed diseases, staph infection in her blood twice, and the list can go on and on. It was extremely difficult to deal with my daughter being so sick by myself, but I found the strength in places I never knew it existed. He seems to be doing fine, he just constantly says he misses us and things will be different when he comes home. I want so bad to believe him and keep a light of hope in my heart that things are gonna all be okay. I can't help but listen to the little voice in the back of my head that tells me 'that's what everyone says when they're locked up..they just want someone to talk and write.'  I think I'm gonna stick with him this time, only because I love him with all of my heart and I want so bad for us to be a family. I just dont want to hurt our daughter on the way. We want to get married while he is in prison, but neither of us know what to do so he told me to look online and after 30 minutes of clicking I ended up here LoL. Any suggestions?

By the way, our daughter is perfectly fine. She has recovered miracously with no problems. She has no disease and is on no medication. She is growing and healthy and the most happy beautiful baby I've ever seen. :) But then again, she told me she would be the day I looked into her eyes.